Many people prefer anal sex to vaginal sex. The science behind this phenomenon is that there are many nerve endings in the anus that bring good feelings when they get stimulated. But is it okay to have anal sex? And more importantly, is it harmful?
The human body is designed in an extremely practical way: while the sex organs serve to procreate, the rectum and anus serve to expel body waste. The anus seemingly has no sexual role and provides no feelings of pleasure. It is considered by socially to be a dirty part of the body, which explains the reluctance to use it for sex.
Male and female pleasure
- Men are often the ones who suggest anal sex to their partners because it provides them with intense pleasure. As the anal passage is narrower than the vagina, the penis is gripped more tightly, and the man’s feelings of pleasure increase tenfold.
- Women can also derive pleasure from anal sex and some are even capable of reaching orgasm! Gradually and gently is the way to go, with the man paying full attention to what his partner tells him.
Hi, I have been dating this girl from past 3 years now. We tried having vaginal sex many times but every time i have been unable to penetrate her for some or other reason. Either she is too scared of the pain either she is too tense etc.We tried everything from using KY to seeing a doctor also who says all is fine. As a substitute we tried having anal sex. From last 2 years we have been just doing that.
What do you know, an answer from someone who knows what they’re talking about.
I have been maried 20 years. I love anal sex, so much that it has been years since I had vaginal sex. My husband is fine with it. I like some stimulation from his hands on my clit, but having his peins in my butt is what makes me sing. So, dont worry about it. If you both like how it feels, embrace her rear end as though it were her most sarced opening. Get her some butt plugs, suggest she wear one on dates etc. It will get her even more excited. I have one that vibrates and has a remote control for the vibrator. He loves to tease me with that on dates. This one is huge, so I feel like I am really doing something special for him by having it in me all evening. Although I love to be asked to wear one of my plugs, I often just sneak on in me with out anyone knowing. Feeling it with my every move, has me very hot by the time we get home. When he discovers it in me, he is very happy.
A woman who also loves anal (and is anal only!) answering an anal question on the internet? I was starting to think it would never happen!
The rest of the commenters are incredibly unhelpful and rude, telling him he needs to break up with her immediately, that she’s a post-op transsexual, or that she needs to be pushed into switching to vaginal sex.
innovative-deviant said: What was the first time you did anal, and did you enjoy it straight away, or was it something that you grew to like?
the first experience when i was about 16 was a bad one. But my boyfriend took the time to train my asshole with toys that got larger and ever since i got it to where he could just shove his big cock in without it shocking me, i’ve loved it! and now its my favorite! then sucking dick..
analfellatio said: Easiest way to clean up so you dont get many particles
The way it’s done in porn is to not eat much for a day and then take enemas until you’re totally clean (and probably keep taking them throughout the shoot). But that’s not really necessary in real-world sex, and can be too much of a hassle to be doing if you want frequent anal.
In reality, you can usually control your anal cleanliness by simply eating well and wearing a butt plug for 15 to 20 minutes before fucking. A healthy, high fiber diet will ensure you stay pretty cleaned out with minimal residue, and the butt plug—which, in addition to helping warm up for anal, also stimulates the rectum and can help to move things along if you will need to use the restroom soon—generally ensure a clean ass for a while that’s primed and ready to fuck. The rectum stays empty, assuming a healthy diet, except for right when you feel the need to go to the restroom.
Ultimately, however, you’re having anal sex. Prepare for the possibility of encountering something. It’s not a big deal and you can clean off easily and move on.
Here’s the thing: getting dirty is part of playing in the sandbox.
Have anal often enough and eventually you will run into poo, no matter how much prep and cleansing you’ve done. Just a fact of anal sex life.
So simply be mentally prepared each time you have butt sex for it to possibly happen. And if you can’t keep yourself from freaking out about it, then anal sex isn’t for you.
There is no hard-and-fast rule on what will work best or perfectly for you when it comes to prepping for anal sex. Just have to experiment and see.
With my partners (and with myself when it comes to being pegged or aggressive assplay on me), I’ve found that simply having a good BM not too long before sex, then a good manual cleaning with fingers and mild soap in the shower works fine.
And just from a dietary standpoint, I know what foods affect my GI tract. Some foods will run through me quickly, some won’t. That helps with timing of anal sex for me.
Having said this, this partner of mine…. wow…. she is great:
Here are ways make anal sex pleasurable for both you and your partner.
August is anal sex month, so I’ve put together some tips for how to try it without any pain and, possibly, find it orgasmic.
I’ll summarize the tips below and you can go to the full article to read the details of each.
- If you can’t see it happening, it will never happen.
- You must know your own body.
- Make sure you lubricate!
- Use a condom for all anal sex.
- Women in porn often stimulate their clitoris during anal play.
- Use your fingers or a small anal toy, like the Bendi Butt Plug, to warm up for anal sex.
- As Jayme Waxman said on Better Sex Radio, porn stars are sexual athletes.
- Women should use her muscles to push as she moves onto the penis.
First, semen anywhere helps a woman’s sex drive regardless if it’s left in a vagina, ass, or mouth. The mouth is probably the least effective being that the acids in the stomach can destroy the testosterone, while the vagina or colon would absorb much more effectively. The colon being the quickest and most effective. This is the reason why some quick-acting seizure medications are inserted rectally – the body absorbs chemicals the fastest through the colon walls, semen/testosterone included.
Below I will piece together a few articles and let the reader decide. As far as I know, this claim has not been proven and it originally started when my wife, Venice, started to leave my sperm in her ass after sex. For whatever reason, it seemed a bit cleaner to pull out in the last few seconds and put my head in her ass and unload. She liked it, I thought it was a bit more kinky, and her vagina always stayed fresh to eat, not that my sperm has ever scared me away. However, it definitely was much fresher (no day old sperm). If her ass wasn’t as fresh, well… it’s her ass.
We immediately noticed that her sex drive shot through the roof. She began wanting to deepthroat me. In fact, this sparked her entire need to deepthroat (see “Deepthroating – My Introduction”). She went from initiating sex 10% of the time to 75% of the time, and she demanded that I cum inside her, especially in her ass.
Unsure of exactly what was happening, whether it was her maturing sexually, her age, or the semen in her ass, I began to experiment. For weeks at a time I would only cum in her mouth or vagina and slowly her sex drive would decline. She didn’t notice, but as a man, I did. If I came in her ass, within the next 15 minutes and lasting for the next 48 hours, it seemed to affect her libido. Her oral would change from slow and pleasant, to aggressive and demanding. Her sex talk would go from dirty to extremely dirty, especially when she talked about my cum.
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So the other Day my Master made me cum anally, and OWHMYGAWD!
It was probably one of the best orgasms I have ever had, tbh.
I’m sorry but if you aren’t having anal in your relationship there’s a fucking problem.
Im so happy that he got me into anal<3 because I love being his little anal slut and being filled with his cum(;